In and out of will power

IN AND OUT OF THE WILLPOWER 

willpower is the key to success. successful people strive no matter what they feel by applying their will to overcome apathy ,doubt or fear .

                                                                                                           ~ Dan Millman 

Hey folks, I have some simple questions before starting this article, try to relate and find your answer:

Are you able to stick to the plans you made for your exam preparation? Are you able to follow your diet completely? Do you stick to your fitness routine? Are you able to control your Procrastination?

If your answer to the above Questions is a NO then you have a problem of weak willpower.

The Oxford dictionary explains Willpower as “control of one's impulses and actions; determination; self-control.”

In simple words willpower means “the ability to control oneself and determine one's actions” or “Firmness of will”.

In my last Post “The power of focus” In which I talked about the importance of being focused towards the goal and after reading the post many people told me that it is hard for them to focus one thing for a longer tenure in fact many people said it’s impossible to implement.

After hearing to all these reviews I realized that the main problem behind these review is lack of will power. People are short of willpower and determination to sustain chasing their goal.So let us have view over the will power.

HOW DO WILLPOWER WORK.?

Kelly McGonigal, PhD and author of The Willpower Instinct says willpower is a response that comes from both the brain and the body.

The prefrontal cortex (that section of the brain right behind your forehead) is the part that helps us with things like decision-making and regulating our behavior. Self-control, or willpower, falls under this heading, and thus is taken care of in this part of the brain.

To be effective at controlling our urges and making sound decisions, the prefrontal cortex needs to be looked after. That means feeding it with good-quality food so it has enough energy to do its job and getting enough sleep.

HOW DOES WILL POWER DEPLETS ?

McGonigal points out that one of the most replicated findings about willpower is that it seems to be finite—that is, we only have so much and it runs out as we use it.

Trying to control your temper, ignore distractions or refuse seconds all tap the same source of strength.

We can look at willpower like a muscle—it can get exhausted by overuse, but just like our physical muscles, there are some researchers who believe we might be able to strengthen our willpower by training it.

Many people believe they could improve their lives if only they had more of that mysterious thing called willpower. With more self-control we would all eat right, exercise regularly, avoid drugs and alcohol, save for retirement, stop procrastinating, and achieve all sorts of noble goals.

At its essence, willpower is the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals. And there are good reasons to do so.

Now as we know the problem let us try to look for the solution:

First of all we need to understand that we are not born with the willpower, we must build it like a muscle with continuous effort and Repetition. So if you lack willpower then don’t worry just remember it’s never too late to start , you build a super will power now .
Let us see few points to increase our willpower :

1. Increase your capacity for pressure (Learn how to manage stress): At first we need to manage our stress. Being under high levels of stress means that our body’s energy is used up in acting instinctively and making decisions based on short-term outcomes. Our prefrontal cortex loses out in the battle for our energy when high-stress is involved. McGonigal says that stopping to take a few deep breaths when we feel overwhelmed or tempted can be a great start in managing our stress levels and improving our willpower.

2. Encourage yourself to stick to your plans: To make it even easier, it appears that self-affirmation can even help you to have more self-control when you’re running out, according to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. A good example of this is the difference between telling yourself “I can’t” and “I don’t.” Taking back control of the situation using the phrase “I don’t” has been shown to be more effective at helping you to stick to your plan and break bad habits- if you tell yourself you can’t, you are creating a feedback loop that keeps you reminding of your limitation and this whole process suggest you are forcing yourself to do things you don’t want.

3. Get more sleep to help your brain manage energy better : McGonigal also says getting enough sleep makes a big difference to how efficiently our prefrontal cortex works- sleep deprivation (even just getting less than six hours a night) is a kind of chronic stress that impairs how the body and brain use energy. The prefrontal cortex is especially hard hit and it loses control over the regions of the brain that create cravings and the stress response.

And if you’re wondering how much sleep is enough, here’s a rough guide: one of the most acclaimed sleep researchers, Daniel Kripke, found in a recent study that “people who sleep between 6.5 hours and 7.5 hours a night, live the longest, are happier and most productive”.

4. Postpone things for later to gain focus on what is important now: Postponing something you really shouldn't have can be effective if you’re trying to break a bad habit. In Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, Roy F. Baumeister explains that people who tell themselves “not now, but later,” are generally less tormented by the temptation of something they are trying to avoid.

5. Create powerful habit, Rituals and routine: Building on the last point, creating rituals is a great way to remove needless decision-making from your day. Once something has been turned into a habit, you don’t even have to think about it. You do it without using any of your willpower. Every morning, I start my day with the same 20- 30 minute power routine to get me in an optimal physical, emotional and intellectual state.Each step of the ritual is carefully choreographed for optimal results, yet it requires no willpower on my part because it’s engrained in my ritual.

THE POWER OF FOCUS.

           "Focus on your potential instead of your limitation."
                                                                                                           -- Alan Loy McGinnis

The dictionary meaning of word FOCUS is "the state or quality of having or producing clear visual definition." simply speaking it means creating a visual and staying connected with it all the time .
the Idea of being focus is simple to understand but hard to implement .


The problem with many of us now days is that we spend our time focusing on what we don't want rather then focusing on what we want and this is what winners associate with ,they have  clearly focused priorities.


Winners focus on their potential and cherish every opportunity they have where as others focus on the limitations and seek for excuses .


the famous Author and success coach Robin Sharma once said " the ordinary focus on what they are getting. The Extraordinary think about who they are becoming." indeed a deep thought, isn't it ?


the people who are on their utmost success know very well where to focus on , they have clear cut priorities for their lives , they connect emotionally and physically with the focused point and spend most of their time on their goal .


Note: being focused to something in now ways mean that you should start ignoring everything and just continue doing one thing all the time, of-course it is necessary to give time to the material things like enjoying with your family or doing any other thing that gives you an ease .
Here it is suggested to cut off your focus from all those things which are unnecessary or irrelevant and just divert your focus on your goal.


Now let me clear a simple point first focusing on your goal and focusing on the end result are two different things always remember one thing "the more you focus on end results ,the more you eradicate from lessons of the journey." So we don't just need to focus on the end result but we need to focus on the journey of reaching our goal as the joy of learning during the journey is much more then the happiness of reaching the final destination without any experience.


Focus is what keeps us on track when we are trying to reach our goals. If you think of an archer as he aims at a target, it is essential that the archer has focus in order to hit the bulls eye. Likewise, when a person wants to create something in their life, they must main focus in order to achieve the goal.


There are many reasons why a person loses focus while pursuing their goals. The constant distractions in today's world mean that maintaining focus can be very difficult. Distraction of work, home, friends, socialising, events and everything else constantly compete for our attention and dedicated time. It takes time to stay focused on achieving our goals and it's so easy to fail in our attempt to maintain enough momentum, desire, energy and persistence needed to achieve our goals. As a result we often give up and think our goal is unachievable.


One of the main reason due to which we loose our focus is " negative self talks" i.e. the things you tell to your self regarding all the possibilities of why you cant achieve your goal. Initially we pursue a goal because we are contaminated by the motivating thoughts that we are going to improve our self but slowly we tend to feed our mind with excuses and reasons for not doing it any more.
If you too are doing the same thing of feed your mind with retarded thoughts i'll suggest you to stop it right now .


now let us have a look on some simple but effective ways which can help you to maintain your focus on the goal :


1. Get rid of excess internet usage.  Breaks are important. But unscheduled Internet breaks can keep you from ever getting into the “flow” of work. Even quick surfing as a reward will snap you out of your most productive periods, which can be hard to restart.

For those of us who don’t trust out own willpower in the face of that shiny, browser icon, you can get Internet-blocking software like Freedom that actually prevents your computer from logging onto the Internet for set periods of time. It might feel silly—but so does a grownup who can’t quit looking at pictures of others.

2. Make a list and go through it methodically. The list is one of the simplest and most ignored relics of the pen and paper age. There is something viscerally satisfying about manually crossing a task off the list. Without a “guide” to the work that needs to get done, we’ll tend to forget what needs to be done.

Make your brain a chores list, and don’t let it go play until the chores are done. No excuses.

3. Set a deadline and do not break it. If you don’t have a deadline to get something done, you can push it off till tomorrow. And as we know, there is an infinite supply of tomorrow. As Henry Rollins said, “Don’t think about it, don’t talk about it, do it.”

4. The journey is long, so slow down. The biggest impediment to productivity is unrealistic expectations. This is often a result of excessive guilt over not having been productive lately. Taking a couple days off? Don't try to cram in everything you "have to" do. Even if tasks seem tiny, remember to just work on one at a time.


5. Use the Power of Visualisation. To have something to focus on we must have a strong visual picture of our target so we can maintain focus on the end result. The more you bring what it is you wish to obtain to the forefront of your mind, the more focus you can give to it.


6. Write your goals down. Put your goals, reasons, objectives and beliefs in writing. When they are in writing it makes them more real and they can be reviewed and used as a constant source of encouragement. Eventually your goals will become branded in your mind.

7. Prioritise your Goal. Focus on a few goals at one time. Try not to overburden yourself as it will limit your chance of achieving your goal and demotivate you. Concentrate on the important ones first, achieve them and then you can look at addressing the other goals.

well thought of sharing few lines I read on Google few days back "remember life is like a camera just focus on what is important and capture the good time develop from the negative and if things don't work out,just take another shot" and  at last  Dream big , work hard ,stay focused and surround your self with good people. 

LIMITLESS LIFE

"WHATEVER THE MIND OF MAN CAN CONCEIVE AND BELIEVE HE CAN ACHIEVE "

                                                                                                                     - NAPOLEON HILL

Hello folks well to begin with let us start with a small story .
Once a man called his sons and gave them specs of different shades,Blue to one and Red to another and asked them what is the color of the world they see around and unsurprisingly the first one said Blue while the latter claimed it to be Red and then he asked them to exchange there specs and he again asked the same question and consequently their answers were also exchanged .


we consume and presume our lives according to the colors we have put over our eyes,
see the world according the the thoughts and beliefs we have put over our mind .


so the only limits we have in our life are those which are created and crafted by us.
only those factors which we believe to be the limiting factors limits our life ,these limiting factors can be any belief or thought process which the society or you yourself have inculcated in your thinking process like -"Iam too young to start my own business"or"I am too old to take up a new course / job"or it could be something related to your past like "I cant succeed because I don't have a decent educational background " it can be any negative thought we feed our brain with .


Remember one thing two bulls always fight in our brain the positive one and the negative one and which one wins the most ... the one we feed the most .


So always remember to feed your mind with positive and healthy thought to keep your life healthy and positive , by the expression"feed positive" it doesn't mean you have to sit and filter each and every thought of yours into positive and negtive,well that is practically hard to do because in a day 60000 thoughts passes through your mind so you cant segregate them all . All you have to do is to focus on thought which makes you happy and reconciles with your personal goals and believe on such thought.

The human mind and spirit and can perform miracles if properly used and conditioned . So, this is fantastic! Human beings have a tremendous imagination and the mind power to see things into realization. We’re great at these monumental, seemingly impossible tasks.

Where we often miss the mark is on the more intimate side of things. The more personal, home-grown aspects of our lives. Instead of seeing what is possible, we get caught up in the obstacles. We see only blockades impeding our way.

Have you ever said things like this to yourself:

I just can’t do it.
Why do things like this always happen to me?
All of the good ones are already taken.

These are just a few of the hundreds, if not thousands, of negative things we say to ourselves that actually limit our possibility. What are the negatives you support in your internal dialogue?

The only thing that is stopping you from being a success or which is making you a success every time is "you and only you".

so if you don't like some thing you have power to change it,all you have to remember is positive always dominates the negative . The difference between success and failure is most often found in the mind. The one who thinks they can triumph will come out on top far more frequently than the one who thinks they will fail.

so the aim of life is not just to live but to live life without limit , live a "Limitless life ".

What is a limitless life? It’s a life where you are free to reach your highest potential – a life where negative thinking is powerless to stop you from pursuing your dreams and desires to create a rich and abundant life full of joy and possibilities. It’s a life where you are completely open to seeing those possibilities.

I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.

-Diane Ackerman

Do you want to only live the length of your life, just plodding along and taking what comes your way? Or do you want to live the width of your life as well, experiencing the fullness of opportunity that life has to offer and always being open to more – more joy and happiness, more peace, more abundance, more love, and more success in whatever way you define it?


“The way to get rid of darkness is with light; the way to overcome cold is with heat; the way to overcome the negative thought is to substitute the good thought. Affirm the good, and the bad will vanish.

                                                                                   - JOSEPH MURPHY

keys to success 

In the previous post we discussed that "success is a state of mind ". while some people say success is more about hard work , some believe that is more related to "smart work ". Well what I believe is that success is a blend of "hard wok" with "smart work " i.e. to be successful you need to work hard with smartness . The terms success is based on two factors basically primary factor (hard work ) and secondary factor (smart work ) .



Hard work plus smart work .
Now let us examine the two factors individually and then we will try to conclude the matter by merging the two factors and building the actual action plan.


Primary factor - The Hard work
Hard work, though is effective for sorting out difficult situations, but is quite lengthy. Well, while growing up and taking lessons from life and books, you need to put in lots of efforts. This creates your base as a human being for the future. It also gives you the right platform, where you can expand your knowledge and gather experience. In accordance with the same, you can easily be led to success. Working harder on other occasions of life rather than just building the base does not give you the kind of results you deserve, rather is generally the waste of time and energy.
Hard work if done in right direction can build your desired life and if done in a opposite direction can lead your life to the gloomy path .
The main ingredients of hard work is self discipline and determination . To work hard you need to have a great self control to say no to things not conciling with your dream and need determination to follow your goal even if stones are thrown at you over and over again .

Secondary factor - The Smart work 

In cases where things never go right and you are criticized for your performance unnecessarily, it is normal for you to get frustrated. This is one of the instances when you have to work smarter. Being smart saves your time and enhances your accuracy, and the present world opens opportunities for the smarter professionals more than the hard workers. You are acting smart means that you are an organized and ethical person. It also helps you in preventing the chances to raise critical questions and complains against your efforts. In fact, it does not demand much of your efforts rather than making your brain do all the talking.
Working smart simply means taking pre planned steps , organising and analysing every aspect before making your move .


The actual action plan . 
It is not always possible for you to maintain both the aspects. But the point is that, working hard in the beginning makes you become a smart worker for the rest of your life. It is more like being experienced while doing something, and changing the course of the game in the next turn. While in the next turn, you will deliberately perform better and within a shorter period. In order to conclude, putting efforts makes you explore the whole platform, while creating a good chance for yourself the next instance you come back. Well, you come back with innovative skills which can show you the door to success easier and faster.


Many a time people also denote "luck or destiny" as a factor associated with success .That he did that ,he achieved that or he is at that position because he is luckier than me .
well I do agree luck plays an important part in life but ...

What is luck ?

Why do some people seem to get lucky breaks? We all know someone who "seems lucky" but what's their secret? Is it just a matter of sitting back and waiting for fortune to come knocking on your door or do you have to do something more to invite it in? Often people who see themselves as unfortunate tend to want to believe the success and fortune of others is just pure luck and nothing more. They themselves, they will tell you, simply have had no luck at all.
For people like this I just a have a single question "DID YOU PREPARE FOR LUCK ?"
Believe me when I tell you that so-called "lucky" people are definitely doing a great deal more than just existing and waiting for their lucky break!
These so called lucky people do some thing which other people fails to do -They Prepare
yes they prepare themselves for an opportunity that will help enhance their lives. They don't just sit and wait and hope; they actively pursue a goal and look for every opportunity to achieve it. Being in the right place at the right time is a planned strategy.
In reality the people who are "just lucky" in life are relentlessly persistent in their ambitious pursuits. The knowledge that they have to be ready for the right opportunity is part of their plans. They aren't startled by opportunity, they're prepared for it and are fully able to take advantage when the right one presents itself. These are the same types of people who refuse to let life just happen. They want to be in charge of their lives and being prepared for opportunity's knock on the door is one way they do it.
Luck is seems to have conjectural origin from the feeling of self confidence and self preparation .
luck is nothing but the probability that you will strike every time you get some thing from your comfort zone created by preparation done over the time .
So, we are the creator of our own luck and we are the one responsible for every time we get unlucky .
Now, you'll be surrounded by doubt what if I prepare my self well but didn't get the result due to some uncontrollable circumstances. for e.g. if you prepare well for your interview but you couldn't reach the venue on time due to traffic ,well here comes "destiny " into the picture .
Every time you face some uncontrollable circumstances , just remember one thing you are not meant for that , you deserve something much greater then what you expected .Although destiny plays only for 2% of the events of your life rest are all under you control .
remember the tag line of the block "every thin happens for a cause"

“Your attitude for life defines your altitude of life”

There was a man who made his living by selling balloons. He had balloons of many different colours, including red, yellow, blue and green. The only difference was some were ordinary while few were filled with helium gas. One day a little boy asked “if you release a red balloon would that fly?” the man looked at the boy and replied gently -
“boy, it is not the colour of the balloon, it is what’s inside that makes it go up.”

Same is the case with our lives: It’s what’s inside us that counts and what’s inside us that makes us go up is our attitude.

One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential in life is to learn to monitor your attitude and its impact on your performance, relationship and everyone around you.

The most important decision we make in our lives is the attitude we choose to express each day when dealing with people and circumstances. This critical choice determines success or failure in every form of life. The key is the realization that we choose. That’s right. You purposefully choose your attitude. Choosing a positive state of mind will lead to virtually unlimited success in your career and your life. A negative attitude will lead to unhappiness, poor relationships, difficulty at work and ultimately, poor health. In fact, the most common causes of death in the world are heart disease and cancer, which are related to stress. Stress is a result of a negative attitude, carried out via perceptions, choices and behaviours.

So, how do we build a right attitude? There are three factors that determines our attitude formation.

1.  Education:

First of all don’t confuse yourself between education and learning. Education includes both formal and informal knowledge. We are drowning in information but starving for knowledge and wisdom. Learning is lot like eating. It is not how much you eat that matters, what matters is how much you digest.

2.  Environment :

Once upon a time, at a large mountainside there was an eagle nest with 4 large eagle eggs inside. One day, an earthquake rocked the mountain causing one of the eggs to roll down to a chicken farm, located in the valley below. The chickens knew that they must protect the eagle egg. Eventually, the eagle egg hatched and a beautiful eagle was born. Being chickens, the chickens raised the eagle to be a chicken. The eagle loved his home and family but it seemed his spirit cried out for more. One day, the eagle looked to the skies above and noticed a group of mighty eagles soaring. “Oh,” the eagle cried, “I wish I could soar like those birds.”

The chickens roared with laughter, “You cannot soar like those. You are a chicken and chickens do not soar.” The eagle continued staring at his real family up above, dreaming that he could be like them. Each time the eagle talked about his dreams, he was told it couldn't be done. That was what the eagle learned to believe. After time, the eagle stopped dreaming and continued to live his life as a chicken.

Finally, after a long life as a chicken, the eagle passed away.

Environment consist everything you see around everything you observe in you daily life. If your environment is conducive of positive influence, your attitude is ought to be positive.

One of the tragic parts of negative attitudes is that misery loves company. Negative people will search out others and attempt to bring them down to their level. This is how negative attitudes spread. Their negative influence feels powerful and they use it as a self-esteem boost. People do this in attempt to feel better about themselves, but the end result is short-lived and unproductive. In sales, it is hard enough dealing with rejection from your prospects and customers. Find positive people and let their attitudes stick to you.

So choose your eagles wisely and maintain distance with the chickens.

3.  Experience :

Experience is an important ingredient for success as ‘success comes from good experiences and good experiences comes from bad experiences.’

Similarly experience hold an important place in forming your attitude. Our attitude and behaviour changes from person to person depending upon the experience we had with the person. Same is the case with events we face in our life. So even if you had a bad experience with something try to look for the golden side of it.

Everything that happens to you in your life is a learning experience. This is positive. We may have hoped for a different outcome, but face the facts in a positive light and move on. Let yourself become stronger from the experience, rather than weaker, full of doubt and stressed. Experience is just another word for mistake. Learn from these experiences by choosing a positive attitude that prepares you for the next challenge in life, which is right around the corner.

Consequences of a negative Attitude.

Sustained negative attitude will kill you. By far, the worst side effect of bad attitude is stress and the top fatal diseases in the world are caused by stress. Stress turns quickly into anxiety and depression. Now that you know you have power to choose, why to choose negative attitude? People with negative attitudes struggle and have difficulties in their life. Life is an obstacle course and we become our biggest obstacle by having a negative attitude.

Rewards of a positive attitude.

People like to be around positive people. Having a positive attitude will improve your relationship with people, makes you happier and leads to success. The rewards of a positive attitude are enormous, if you are willing to keep your spirits up over long term.

Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude towards it, for that determines our success or failure.

-        Norman Vincent peale  

Success Sutra

If you really want to succeed, form a habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do.

Success is all about the number of times you fail and the number of time you bounce back and refuses to give up.

You all might have heard that “success is a state of mind”

But how much do we really associate our self with this line, do we actually believe what this line what to convey to us.

Let us examine this line “Success is a state of mind”

Success is a wide term and an ongoing process and it differs from person to person, for example the thing which is a success to me might be a normal thing for you and vice versa .

Moving further or actually moving back the memory lane when we were in our school days scoring good score in  final exam was a success and when achieved that getting into good collage became a success after getting admission  in the desired collage getting degree became success and after degree getting a good job became success and so on .

So to conclude the above paragraph success is not a particular or definite thing, in our life definition of success has change a number of time.

What we consider a success for our current state of mind may change with changes in circumstances, so clearly success is a state of mind.

Now that we are clear of the idea that success is a state of mind, a question must be budding out of your senses. ‘How to get that state of mind’.

Well there are a few simple suggested action plane which if are followed regularly can clear your state of mind:

Positive believe

Having a positive attitude and being motivated is a choice we make every day. Living a positive life helps you use your abilities to the fullest. Well now let me clear you one point positive believe doesn't mean thinking at home doing nothing and just serving your mind with positive thought, it is a state of accomplishment and confidence that comes from preparation.

Ownership mode

Last week I got a pleasure to get introduced to the success guru Ravish Bhateja or as I call him the perfect human soul, he taught me this principle of ownership mode, so what is ownership mode is simply mean taking control of your life in your hand. Life is more or less full of choices and compromises, every morning make a choice of being a winner, take actions that will lead you a step closer to your goal and don’t procrastinate your success.

Commitment

You can achieve anything, if you are ready to sacrifices everything.

Every morning make a commitment to yourself that nothing or no one can distract you or divert you from you goal. All you have to do is to be committed to your goal, give everything you have to realize you dream, bear the pain of saying no to the distractions, for the result of success may heal it all .

Persistence

The journey of being successful is not a one night story and not an easy one too, it is full of setbacks but those who bounce back every time and refuses to quit shall bear the fruit a success. Persistence results from commitment and leads to determination. Never give up on your dreams you never know how close you are to your goal just be there, endure the pain for and you shall be the winner.

At last the main element of success is loving yourself, so love yourself, you are the hero of your own life.

keep smiling.

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THE POWER OF LOVE

Life is a gift which the god has given to all of us to make our presence felt in the universe. The aim of life is not to live but to live like legend live a beautiful life as a human soul ,the soul which know the importance of belongingness , the soul which knows the purpose of life is to give and receive love from the fellow creatures .


The phrase walk of life takes u to the internal segment of the purpose of life given to us.


How do you describe your real purpose in life? I’m not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you’re here at all — the very reason you exist. Well the purpose of life is to spread “LOVE”.


Love requires action. It’s not a thing we try to get for ourselves, but instead is an action we express to others through sharing and serving.


Love is an action, so to get into its intellectual core there are three suggested levels :


1. Loving God


So, how do you express love for God? By telling God, "I love You"? Singing praises to Him? These are good things, but they only scratch the surface.


Best way to show your love toward god is “Gratitude” ,to show your love tell god how much you r thankful toward him for such a lovely life he has granted you ,thank him for that u can see, thank him for that u can breath, thank him for that you have food to eat and most importantly thank him for strength and support he has given u at various levels of life .


Every morning tell god how much u love him, how thankful you are for give what we have around you and every night before going to your bed thank him for another day passed with lots of love and harmony .


2. Loving yourself


“ You cannot give away something you don't have in you. ”

For loving our self we need to understand “You cannot give away something you don’t have”. How can someone love another person if they don’t love themselves.


Love yourself ,each and every bit about you belongs to you ,its what defines you . Believe in yourself you have an untapped potential to be or achieve more then what you are or what you have.


We all need to accept ourselves, embrace our personalities and even our imperfections, knowing that although we are not where we need to be, we are making progress .


God wants us to love ourselves and enjoy how he's made us!

3. Love others


Loving others is the only way to keep the God-kind of life flowing through you. God's love is a gift to us; it's in us, but we need to release it to others through words and actions. Left dormant, it will stagnate like a pool of water with no outlet.

The act of loving others is one of the most exhilarating things I have experienced. I feel excitement stirring in my spirit and soul when I plan to do something to make someone else feel loved and cared for.

You can experience the same exhilaration just by "loving out loud." Here's a challenge: Think of three people you know who could really use a gesture of God's love. Then think of creative ways you can express His love to these people, and do it. I guarantee you will feel a wonderful sense of fulfillment and joy afterward.

                   Your wish is my command

"Your wish is my command" the universe has been set as a menu card by the lord . All you have to do is to order what you want from the universe for your life .Its is as easy as making an order in a restaurant,just open the menu and say I like to have 'that particular job ',' that particular house' ,'a partner like that' ,'I want to score this much in my exams '.

we all have heard the story of 'Aladin and his magical lamp' well our life works a kind in the similar manner .
The universe here works same as the magical creature how is here to help us manifest what all if want in life.

All we have to do is to set the frequency of our thoughts in an alignment with the frequency of thing we want to manifest and once we are able to match up with that there comes to action the universe taking our order and roaring "your wish is my command".

and its all because of "law of attraction".

The Law of Attraction states that you manifest anything you give enough focus to. By giving your attention to a thought, you activate that thought's vibration, and the Law of Attraction will cause more vibrations like it to be drawn to it. Once enough energy is gathered, the vibration becomes physical. But what does that look like in the practical sense? If I think about a million dollars with laser like focus, will I just wake up one morning and find a huge pile of cash in bed next to me? Well, no. That's not usually how it works. Manifestations don't just tend to drop out of the sky - we simply don't really believe that they can.

The Universe brings us our manifestations through the path of least resistance. That doesn't necessarily mean what we think it does, though. The path of least resistance isn't what is easiest for the Universe (there are no limits on that end, the possibilities are infinite). It's what's easiest for you to allow. This is why negative belief  have the ability to block your manifestations - they vibrate at a different, often opposite, frequency to what you want and basically shut down avenues in which you could receive those items.

In order to manifest something, we have to give it enough focus to bring it into the physical AND we have to ensure there are no contradictory or opposite beliefs blocking it. So, if you want a million dollars, not only do you have to spend some time thinking wonderful, positive thoughts about the money, but you also have to ensure that you don't harbor any beliefs such as "I'm always going to be poor", "Rich people are immoral" or "It's impossible for me to earn a million dollars", etc.

So, let's say you harbour no contradictory beliefs to having the million dollars. You think money is great, it's absolutely possible for you to receive a million dollars in some way, and it doesn't even really feel like a big deal to you. How will the Universe deliver this manifestation? We've already concluded that it's not just going to drop out of the sky.

The Universe delivers manifestations in the form of insights, hunches and coincidences. It brings you together with just the right people at just the right time. It may orchestrate a delay in traffic, ensuring a chance meeting in the elevator with the owner of your company, whom you'll get in a seemingly innocent conversation with, during which you'll just happen to pitch your idea for a new product. He loves the idea, puts you in charge of the new division created to build and distribute the product and one year later you get a bonus check for one million dollars.

Or, you may have a strong, almost overwhelming hunch to go and buy a lottery ticket, even though you never, EVER buy lottery tickets. But this one day, for some reason, you really think you should. And just this one time, you buy one. And it's a winner.

Notice how this entire process depends on you listening to your intuition and hunches? In the elevator, when you met the owner of your company, you had a hunch to tell him about your idea. By following that impulse, you changed the entire course of your life. But what happens if you don't listen, if you freeze up and let fear keep you from having this conversation? Nothing. The owner never hears your idea, and you've missed a chance at a million dollars. Except you don't even know it.

The process of deliberately receiving the life you want depends on your ability to pay attention to the signs the Universe is giving you. It's not so much about thinking your way through life, as feeling your way through it. If something feels right, pay attention. This is something you'll probably want to do, even if you can't logically justify your actions. If something feels wrong, be careful. Even if it looks good on paper, your intuition is giving you a message.

The more you pay attention to how you feel about things, the more you practice listening to your intuition and noticing coincidences, the better you'll get at this. After you notice a few times that following your intuition, even if it defied rational thinking a bit, led to the perfect outcome - something you couldn't have orchestrated in a million years - you'll become more confident in your ability to follow your hunches. I'm not asking you to completely turn off your rational mind, but consider your feelings as equally valid (if not more so) input in your decision making process, especially if the risk of following your intuition is low. Try it for yourself. You might well just be amazed at where these heretofore unseen opportunities lead you.

Your dreams are waiting for you. Start using these Four Master Keys of Success. Let Law of Attraction work for you, let the Universe gift you whatever you want.

Thank you

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