Release your past 

“Without freedom from the past, there is no freedom at all.” ~Krishnamurti

A man full of power and passion wanted to change his life but  in order to change he has to stand up and make a move but every time he tries to make a move he find himself burdened by something which is sucking all his energy and all his capabilities. This weight is so heavy it wont allow the man to rise and make moves to accomplish what he desire of . No matter how much the person is determined to change no matter how much strong his vision is he wont be able to move unless he releases this burden , though he might crawl but making a proper move is not possible.

This burden is nothing but your own past, yes your past ,you  carry a regret or incapability from your past on your shoulder which does not allow you to prosper because every time you try to move forward a glimpse of your past makes you concious about it. 

You might know few people who are still holding their past , they hold regrets of their past and  undoubtedly carrying their past to their future. what the don't understand is that they are ruining their present plus making every possible plan for a gloomy future.

It is easy to be in hostage of your past,
Someone treated you badly. You regret something you did or said. You can’t let it go. It clouds your present and inhibits your future.You have a hard time forgiving others or yourself for deeds of the past.Because of something that happened in your past, you have difficulty trusting, loving and accepting yourself and others.

Yes, memories and emotions from the past may haunt you and limit you, but are you getting some sort of payoff by keeping those memories alive?
For some, playing the role of the victim brings attention and possibly sympathy (i.e. “Bad things always happen to me.”) If that’s the only kind of attention this person feels they can attract, the payoff is significant and there’s little reason for the subconscious mind to want it to end.
For others, being “right” is the payback. If a person lives in a somewhat uncertain present, holding onto the concept of being “right” about something gives that person a sense of validation, control and certainty.
While releasing yourself from a negative past may seem like an obvious choice for your conscious mind, your subconscious (which controls 98% of your thoughts and actions) may go into a tailspin at the thought of letting go of something that it finds comfort or benefit in.
Consider discussing this with someone who knows you well, will be honest with you and whose counsel you can be open to and hear. Many times it’s difficult to see your own habits and thought patterns because they’re so integral to who you are.

If  you want to get over your past the best thing is to forgive , forgiveness is an act of bravery not every person in this world have courage to forgive others for the ill behaviour they have experienced. 

well if you too find it hard to forgive someone then do it for yourself as by forgiving you will not only release yourself from past regression but will be holding a clear mind window to see new era of happiness.When someone deals you a disservice, it’s hard to simply let it go. If they’ve hurt you, you can’t let them get away with it.
These are the beliefs that will keep you stuck in the past and forever tied to a person you can’t stand. What fun is that?
If someone left you in a nasty breakup or an inept boss yelled at you publicly or someone dismissed something you’ve worked hard on, it’s up to you to either take it personally and let it fester inside you or let it go because you understand that other people are dealing with their own issues.
Forgiving, letting go and releasing are all about you and not about the other person. The other person never has to know.
It’s often easier to forgive when you can truly put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
From many personal experiences, I’ve learned that bullies are simply scared and insecure people who find comfort when they can knock others down. When they were young, they may not have received the love, acceptance and respect they needed. As a result, they have a hard time giving it and operate from a place of fear and control.
If someone has been nasty to you, instead of labelling them a nasty person, consider what’s going on in their lives. People in physical or emotional pain have a difficult time being nice. Are they dealing with stresses at home or work? Are they working through an illness that they don’t want to talk about?If you were in their shoes, how would you have acted?

 

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
                                                                                                                Nelson Mandela    

Let go the past , let go the grief and learn to forgive because you have  all the rights to be happy you have all the rights to prosper , even god wants you to be happy whatever you have experienced in your past take it as an learning experience , the experience for life time which has made you more strong now ,which has widen up your vision and  the way you look at circumstances now .

There is nothing wrong in being a victim, what is wrong is treating your self as a victim . Don't be a victim of your past life let the by gone be by gone. Enjoy your life ,spent the time in things you love and with people who care for you .

                      How do you see yourself ?

       "A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success." 

                                                                                                         Joyce Brothers

Before we start lets know what does this word self Image mean. Self-Image - The idea, conception, or mental image one has of oneself. Self-Esteem - Respect or favourable image of oneself (Random House Dictionary). In lay words it means the idea one has of one's abilities, appearance, and personality. Self image is the ability to see and realise the potentials which others aren't able to see in us.It is the way we carry ourself, all are reflexes and our reaction to a particular situation depends upon the self image we carry in our mind. This self image can broaden your potentials or can break them to the extreme levels.Self-image is how you perceive yourself. It is a number of self-impressions that have built up over time: What are your hopes and dreams? What do you think and feel? What have you done throughout your life and what did you want to do? These self-images can be very positive, giving a person confidence in their thoughts and actions, or negative, making a person doubtful of their capabilities and ideas.Surprisingly, your self-image can be very different from how the world sees you. Some people who outwardly seem to have it all (intelligence, looks, personal and financial success) may have a bad self-image. Conversely, others who have had a very difficult life and multiple hardships may also have a very positive self-image.

In fact, it is precisely because low self image does not seem to be the problem, that it is so very insidious. Many people who suffer from low self image attribute their life challenges to wholly different causes. It does not even occur to them to relate their problems to how they regard themselves at the deepest level. Instead, they blame their problems on a mean boss, racial or sexual prejudice, a talent for choosing abusive love partners and so on.

In this way, the problem is externalized. However, doing this merely moves a person further away from the real problem, and consequently from the solution. Thus by disguising itself as some other more immediately visible issue, low self image is never tackled and overcome. It remains to rear its ugly head again.

Whatever challenge you face, you can rest assured that someone else has had it even worse, and yet gone on to triumph. If so, what prevents you back from doing the same? The answer must inevitably be - yourself. YOU are the primary force shaping you life. If others faced similar external challenges and triumphed, then external circumstances are NOT the primary determiners of your life. Your attitude of mind is.

our self image depends upon three factors - self confidence, self esteem and our experiences. These three factors are contextually proportionate  with each other . To explain this take it this way your experiences builds your confidence and your confidence generates your self esteem .

As we have discussed  your self image  have powers to make you or break you the only difference in two phases is of positive and negative self image. while a positive self image can help you to boost your abilities , a negative self image has power to destroy even your masterly crafted tendencies.

So what is a Positive or a negative self image ? 

Have you ever doubted your potential ,even though you know you are capable of achieving what you desire for , have your said phrases like why do I look like that , why do Its only me suffering every time and have your ever felt a break down just before approaching an  opportunity, then my friend you are carrying negative self image with you all the time . the negative self image doesn't allow you to perform you at your fullest capacity it fills you with terror ,hesitation , fear and sometimes even guilt . On the other hand  When you set and achieve goals to improve your selfimage, to commit yourself to their attainment, and to take action to bring those goals into reality, you begin to develop a more positive self-image than you ever dreamed possible. A positive self-image, in turn, reinforces your courage and confidence. You’re then capable of undertaking even more lofty and challenging goals.

Developing a positive self-image is based on the principle that each of us is the product of what we think and what we believe about our abilities. The only practical world is the one within ourselves – the world in which we develop courage and self-confidence and a more positive self-image. It’s here that we motivate ourselves to transform goals into tangible realities.

 

If self image is such a vital part of our existence and who we are is there a way to improve our self image, is there any way we can amend or fix our negative self image into a positive one. 

Well the answer is yes you always have a choice to improve your self image. All you have to do is follow a simple pattern to improve your self image. 

1. Create a Self concept : self concept simply means -

The ability to know yourself; to be able to assess your strengths, weaknesses, talents and potential.
The ability to be honest with yourself and be true to who you are and what you value.
The ability to take responsibility for your choices and actions.
The ability to love and accept yourself as you are, knowing that you can improve and develop any aspects of yourself that you choose.

2. Grant yourself the permission to make mistakes. learn from them:

Your reaction to your failures, as much as your successes, defines you. You can beat yourself up over a failure, or you can give yourself the permission to make mistakes and vow to learn from them. Let’s face it, whichever route you take, you will still make some mistakes in your life. One approach chips away at your self-esteem, the other helps you become a better person. Choose.

3. Think positively about yourself.:

 Remind yourself that, despite your problems, you are a unique, special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. Identify and challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about yourself, such as ‘I am a loser’, ‘I never do anything right’, or ‘No one really likes me’.

4.Become aware of thoughts and beliefs

Once you've identified troubling situations, pay attention to your thoughts about them. This includes your self-talk — what you tell yourself — and your interpretation of what the situation means. Your thoughts and beliefs might be positive, negative or neutral. They might be rational, based on reason or facts, or irrational, based on false ideas.