GIVE AN ACCEPTANCE TO YOURSELF

Why do so many people feel confused about who they really are and how did the issue of personal identity become so challenging? While it may seem like you should automatically know how to be yourself, in reality that is rarely the case. why do we need approval of others to live our lives and why do we need create an impression on  someone of being someone who is completely different from what we actually are .

I know a lot of people who keep on yelling I want this and I want that or why cant I have that and  all other sort of yelling that makes me wonder  how much these people are uncomfortable in just being there selves , how desperately these people want be someone who the they are not meant to be . 

I have seen people complaining about how ugly they are or how much lazy they or how unfit they are to pick a dress for themselves , even people keep on complaining that how unsuccessful and they can't do anything but what these people doesn't understand is that they are one of the most gorgeous people on the planet, that they are awesome no matter how much ugly they think they are ,no matter how much unfit they think they are and no matter how much time they have failed they are awesome as long as they have courage to get up . you need to know this you are perfect in your own way and stop comparing your self with others, that will not gonna do any good to you , infect you never know the person you are comparing yourself may have his or her own insecurities .

Always remember you are precious the way you are , be you , love your self  as there will never be anyone else like you in the future of the universe. There has never been anyone exactly like you since human life began. That’s why being yourself is more important than anything else; certainly more than the fear that traps people into conforming.

We all have our own insecurities you, me, everyone, we all are conscious about something or other 

so if all have insecurities than why to feel Inferior and why to make the other person feel superior and dominate our lives.

Now the thing which comes out is , How Can I do that ?
Well there can't be a single rout for all of us ,so what you have to do is analyse what is that thing which is not allowing you to break your shell and you will get your solution and of-course feel free to talk to me if you ever need help , however here few common points we all nee to remember to tackle this problem .

1.Trust yourself  because if you can’t trust yourself, why should others trust you?

Being who and what you are is the most natural thing there is. To suppress it, whether through fear, yielding to social pressure, or lack of confidence always leads to trouble. That’s why millions of people today lead lives of frustration and desperation. They denied who they are in the hope that the powers that be would reward them. Their reward was mediocrity, depression and a nagging sense that life like that is scarcely worth living.

There may be a cost. Some people, even some friends, will disapprove of you as you truly are and will let you know it. There will be setbacks along the way. Yet the price for being yourself can never be as great as the price you will pay for stepping aside from your basic nature: a price paid in frustration, dissatisfaction, and the hopeless realization of all that you might have been, but now can never attain.

2. Never say or think negative about yourself.

what we often say to our self is what we are gonna get . never allow thought such as , "I never do anything right." "I'll never change." "I'm ugly." "I look terrible." "I'm dumb." "Who could ever love me? enter in your mind , why to criticize yourself as there already lot of people doing that .


3. Speak good things about yourself


In line with what the Word says about you. For example: "I am made acceptable in the Beloved." "God created me and formed me with His own hands, and God doesn't make mistakes." I like starting the day making good confessions. Perhaps you can do this while you're driving to work or cleaning house. I also encourage you to look in the mirror and say out loud, "God loves and accepts you, and so do I." You may even try hugging yourself. This is beneficial to people who have lacked love and acceptance in their lives.



4. Never compare yourself with other people.


God must love variety or He wouldn't have created us all differently—even down to our fingerprints. You'll never succeed at being yourself if you're trying to be like someone else. Other people can be a good example to you, but duplicating even their good traits will manifest differently through your individual personality.

5. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.

Sachin Tendulkar at an early stage of his carrier was told  that he was  too short for being a good cricketer but instead of focusing on his limitations he focused on what he was good at . i.e playing cricket and now even after years of his retirement he is still known as the god of cricket.

Just keep your focus on your strengths and keep moving a head in the direction you your prosperity.

6. Get someone to talk  

Get some one who can keep you reminding of your qualities and who can keep you uplifted , you can share your daily progress and your problems with, this will definitely help you realize your true self . It can be anyone your parents ,friend or if you feel shy talking with these close ones you can talk to one of your friend on social media .

 The Great-full Gratitude

If I could offer you something so magical that it will help your prosper, make you more happier than your are now ,more healthier than you are now and more positive than you are now, plus increases your productivity ,will you be interested in such a thing?

Well if you are interested, Sorry to disappoint you but there is no such thing that  exist  for real but let me tell  all of us have something with us which  is such a pure form of power that it can get you all of these things and much more than these things. Want to know what it is? well it is...


GRATITUDE

Now most of you must be thinking what does that even mean , so let us look at the meaning of the word , the dictionary describes the word as "the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Lets just divide this meaning into three parts :

1. the quality of being thankful

2.ready to show appreciation for kindness  

3.to return kindness

now if we focus on these points we get the quality of being thankful, which simply mean appreciating what your have rather than craving for what you could have, all you have to do is every morning just say thank you to the mighty for what all you ,when you start finding happiness in what all you have trust me that is the point from where all your worries starts to take  the exit door from your life.
Always be great full for what all you have, the position in and situation you are at because remember somewhere  in this world someone is trying harder and harder to have what all you have.

"Thank you " we all know this word since our childhood but are we really using this word well or do we even use this word . Think about it how will you feel if you help your friend with his new project or helped him in fixing his new website and all your efforts and all your hard work he leaves back without appreciating your work or without even saying thank you , I bet you wont feel like helping him again and on other hand you have your another friend who appreciated your help and offered a you thank you in a most polite way with a smile on a face and small pack of chocolate for you just to show gratitude for the help you offered him. How will you feel this time , of course you would love to help him again with even more enthusiasm than before . well if you  can get your work done without any kind of hazel and by spending almost no money than why not to use this amazing tool known as "thank you " think about it and next time appreciate the kindness of others.

Now we know how important it is to appreciate the kindness of other person as it give a feeling of ease to you and to the other person as well , the thing here is how to appreciate the kindness of others, will a thank you will do or do we need to do something more. Well the first thing you need to remember is that  your appreciation should be an genuine one and not a bogus one , just wear a healthy and a sweet smile on your face and offer your appreciation , it should not seem to be a pretended one  and also not the  one full of over flowering words, as in both the cases it may make the other person a bit of uncomfortable . Now this was the manner for offering your gratitude the next thing that comes our mind is how to do it well that we will discuss in other part of this blog .



Till than remember whenever you get a chance to express your feeling of gratitude ,just do it and remember...

"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it."

                                                                                                               William Arthur Ward

And at last thank you so much for reading this and all my previous blogs .